When are you getting married? When are you having kids? Girl, you know time is ticking, right? I get at least one of these questions regularly. And I’m almost certain I’m not alone. The age-related pressures put on women is unquestionably exhausting. Can there be more of a push for how we can decide the narrative of our own lives? As a woman in her mid-20s, the societal pressures around marriage, babies, and career are all too familiar. All of that is intensified by the images and content we consume in this social media driven world.
Scroll through my social media feeds on any given day and a good bit of the posts are related to pregnancy announcements, gender reveals, baby photos and wedding albums. While I definitely say kudos to them, it always takes me back to those same repetitive questions that so many of us are asked, who have either opted out of that life path or chosen to delay it for a specific period of time. There is so much pressure to have children, to want to have children, to marry by the age of 25.
Truthfully, this tends to come from people who grew up in a different day and age — those who might’ve sought out having a family earlier on (ya know, when the economy wasn’t as crappy).
Often times sharing the idea that you might not want that will result in you being labeled as selfish, crazy, or flat out unhappy.
At the end of the day, there is no “right way” and there is no perfect timeline. I am so at peace with living life on my own terms and not feeling shamed against the societal pressures of what is viewed as a real woman. Every woman is different, and that’s perfectly ok.
I always remind myself of a saying my mom used to tell me, “no one but you has to look in the mirror and accept your reflection & life.”
Do what you want, when you want, because you want to.