For as long as I can remember, I have witnessed couples endure ups and downs with many sets of eyes watching and ears listening. Their relationships are blasted to the public without any precaution. I’m not a relationship guru, but I do have two simple suggestions that could benefit in the long run.
Outsiders are not always your best friends while you are in a relationship. They will nitpick and find every single way to taint the connection between you and your partner.
Nowadays, many couples share their most intimate moments to complete strangers without even realizing it. Whether it is from the happy times to the occasional arguments – Twitter, Facebook and Instagram users have to know it all. Social networks are not the smartest routes to take (especially when Facebook gives you the countless option to change your relationship status). There will always be someone waiting for things to go south in your relationship. Do not give them the satisfaction. Instead, give them curiosity.
Don’t fall victim
You may feel the urge to air your dirty laundry to family and friends because they seem trustworthy . . . don’t. Yes, it can be pretty tempting to vent about something your partner did or did not do. If you continuously tell your loved ones the negatives, soon that will be all they will recognize. They will repeatedly ask how your relationship is doing – think before you speak. You should be able to talk to your partner at all times. Emphasize ‘all’. Communicate thoroughly so the outcome will be effective.
Your partner is your confidante and vice versa. There is no need to go off on the crazy tangents to anyone else except him or her, especially if they are the one who has caused the frustration. Take a breather and make the conversation happen.